I've seen this question posted on various forums and have even been asked it once or twice. The short answer. No. What makes you gay is being attracted to only members of the same sex. Not whether or not you take it up the ass. Actually, there are a lot of gay men who don't have anal sex.
Look, you ass has a metric fuckton of nerve endings that feel good when stimulated the right way. Also, you have a prostate who likes to be messaged. Don't deny your butthole some lovin' because you're scared to be labeled gay. As a matter-of-fact just forget about labels. They tend to pigeonhole you into specific social constructs. If it feels good, do it. Just make sure everyone involved is aware of the risks and has consented.
Happy Buttsecks!
Friday, December 21, 2012
Wednesday, January 11, 2012
Happy New Year
Bdsm is a lifelong journey. We learn new things. We grow and we change.
This year Ive resolved to learn a couple new skills and improve on some old ones. Here is my list:
- Learn how to do cell popping (micro branding)
- Try figging from the top and bottom sides
- Better my skill with rope
- Buy my own a violet wand
- Be more artistic during with needle play
- Practice more with a single-tail
This year Ive resolved to learn a couple new skills and improve on some old ones. Here is my list:
- Learn how to do cell popping (micro branding)
- Try figging from the top and bottom sides
- Better my skill with rope
- Buy my own a violet wand
- Be more artistic during with needle play
- Practice more with a single-tail
Tuesday, August 9, 2011
Why I Consider Myself Heteroflexible
Someone asked me recently about my sexual orientation so I want to take a few minutes to explain what heteroflexible means to me. I know there is debate on the term and from what I can tell there is no one right answer and usually everyones answer is a little different.
To me, bisexual implies that one is willing to have a sexual and/or romantic relationship equally with both male and female partners. Which I do not think applies to me. I'm very, very picky with the guy's i'm attracted to. Which is why I choose the term herteroflexible.
I'm only attracted to androgenous guys. Or like a friend of mine puts it "girly-boys". To describe them more accurately: small framed, geeky, effimenant, and If they cross dress they look like passable girls.
So, that about explains it and the proverbial cat is out of the bag. I choose the lable heteroflexible because I think it most accurately represents me.
To me, bisexual implies that one is willing to have a sexual and/or romantic relationship equally with both male and female partners. Which I do not think applies to me. I'm very, very picky with the guy's i'm attracted to. Which is why I choose the term herteroflexible.
I'm only attracted to androgenous guys. Or like a friend of mine puts it "girly-boys". To describe them more accurately: small framed, geeky, effimenant, and If they cross dress they look like passable girls.
So, that about explains it and the proverbial cat is out of the bag. I choose the lable heteroflexible because I think it most accurately represents me.
Monday, August 1, 2011
Scrotal Inflation or How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love the Saline
So, to put it bluntly, I had my balls blown up to about the size of a grapefruit this weekend and it was fun. Not necessarily sexually stimulating though. Here's what I learned about saline thanks to the wonderful Laughing_Goddess.
1. It can give boys girl boobs. Which in fact feel and look real.
2. It can give small cupped girls larger boobs.
3. Room temp saline burns like the dickens when it's being injected.
4. An 18g needle going into the scrotum doesn't hurt (at leat to me).
5.it's fun! It's not something I would do all the time, but the novelty of having gigantic balls is very entertaining.
1. It can give boys girl boobs. Which in fact feel and look real.
2. It can give small cupped girls larger boobs.
3. Room temp saline burns like the dickens when it's being injected.
4. An 18g needle going into the scrotum doesn't hurt (at leat to me).
5.it's fun! It's not something I would do all the time, but the novelty of having gigantic balls is very entertaining.
Thursday, June 9, 2011
Tuesday, May 24, 2011
Food for Thought
A friend of mine shared this and I wanted to post it here.
"Are We Men A Bunch Of Lying Pricks?" by Jay Wiseman
"Are We Men A Bunch Of Lying Pricks?" by Jay Wiseman
Sunday, May 22, 2011
Sometimes
Sometimes, things don't go how we expect or plan them to go and you know what? That's okay.
When you scene with someone there are so many things that can go wrong that can kill a scene that there isn't a way to describe them all. Sometimes it's a misplaced paddle shot to a tailbone; other times the top or bottom can't get into the right headspace. This time I'm going to focus on the latter.
Last night was a good night. Mostly. Puppet and I were in a good mood, we had recently eaten dinner and were ready to play. So I grab some suspension cuffs, hoist her up, put out my implements of the nights torture and go to work. But something wasn't right. The "fuck that hurt, but in a good way" body language wasn't there nor was that look in her eye. It was just pain. Outright pure, non-erotic pain. I ended the scene, packed up our stuff and went home.
Why you ask? I'm a sadist, but I get nothing out of when when my partner isn't responding to it in a good way. Yeah, I might be a little soft like that, but that's just who I am.
So, what did I learn from this? I learned that sometimes your bottom just might not be in the right headspace for that kind of play. Whether it was hormones, her body not releasing endorphins to get here where she needed to be, or it could have been I didn't do something right. I learned to not take it personally.
Here's how I handled it and maybe this will help you when this happens to your scene. AFTERCARE. Just like it would have been if we finished the scene without a hitch. She felt bad about the situation and was blaming herself, but I believe it was completely out of her control and nothing she could have done would have changed that. We talked about it. I reassured her eveything was okay and let's just say that the night ended very well for the both of us.
When you scene with someone there are so many things that can go wrong that can kill a scene that there isn't a way to describe them all. Sometimes it's a misplaced paddle shot to a tailbone; other times the top or bottom can't get into the right headspace. This time I'm going to focus on the latter.
Last night was a good night. Mostly. Puppet and I were in a good mood, we had recently eaten dinner and were ready to play. So I grab some suspension cuffs, hoist her up, put out my implements of the nights torture and go to work. But something wasn't right. The "fuck that hurt, but in a good way" body language wasn't there nor was that look in her eye. It was just pain. Outright pure, non-erotic pain. I ended the scene, packed up our stuff and went home.
Why you ask? I'm a sadist, but I get nothing out of when when my partner isn't responding to it in a good way. Yeah, I might be a little soft like that, but that's just who I am.
So, what did I learn from this? I learned that sometimes your bottom just might not be in the right headspace for that kind of play. Whether it was hormones, her body not releasing endorphins to get here where she needed to be, or it could have been I didn't do something right. I learned to not take it personally.
Here's how I handled it and maybe this will help you when this happens to your scene. AFTERCARE. Just like it would have been if we finished the scene without a hitch. She felt bad about the situation and was blaming herself, but I believe it was completely out of her control and nothing she could have done would have changed that. We talked about it. I reassured her eveything was okay and let's just say that the night ended very well for the both of us.
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